If we continue reviewing surveys, we find one on Sexual and Behavioral Health prepared by the University of Indiana (USA). The data from this survey is very alarming. If it is about orgasm, 91% of the men experienced it during their last sexual relationship compared to 64% of the women surveyed. Of course, the figure decreases if we talk about the first time they had relationships.
Impediments to sexual response
The 55% of the men achieved it compared to a minimum percentage of the women of only 4%. In general, the experts calculate impressive data. The women's 10% has never experienced an orgasm or anything like that. In order to understand the reasons for this phenomenon, it is necessary to reflect on several issues at the same time.
Must think about “the sexual response” in general. This is how sexual relations work, in the face of some stimuli, a sexual response occurs, before a greater or lesser disposition. This certainly involves the body. However, the mind and the body operate at the same time. That is, both are working together in complex ways. Therefore, it is necessary that both function in certain ways so that there is a sexual response to certain stimuli, with a view to an orgasm occurring.
A wide variety of factors are those that create impediments to reaching orgasm. Faced with problems such as a history of sexual abuse, rape; even due to boredom, fatigue, lack of physical activity, and stress. It can occur simultaneously due to lack of sexual knowledge, negative attitudes, shyness, or various types of complexes. In many cases these are medical conditions, and with a few simple prescription drugs or adviceyes sexual response increases your performance and your own flow. There are also medicines for chronic diseases, depression, hormonal disorders, pelvic pain caused by endometriosis, damaged nerves or vaginal dryness.
parenting and sexuality
For many people not being able to climax can be the cause of a lethal combination. The mix of a strict and generally religious upbringing, and a lack of understanding of her own body. Knowing your own body is essential for both women and men. Finding such low percentages in the female orgasms, it makes sense that we emphasize that it is not so easy for them to orgasm. Boys, on the other hand, do not usually have such problems; at least not often. It is important to know that especially women associate many emotions with sex. This also happens with men, in them the sexual relations that lead to orgasm most of the time are of a more mechanical nature.
In contrast to a woman, if she was raised to believe that sex is 'bad' or 'dirty', she probably won't feel comfortable. Or that you touch his genitals or allow someone else to do it.
For many women, even pronouncing the word vagina can be problematic and carries a negative emotional charge. It may happen that some women do not have the courage to talk about the difficulties they suffer, either to their partner or to their doctor. The origin of the shame may be in this case that they have never felt an orgasm and do not want to go through the pain of confessing it to someone.
As anyone would feel in that position, it turns out they can play at pretending. It is a matter of acting as if that sensation has indeed been experienced. «Every time there's a conversation about this, I get the impression that reaching orgasm is easy for everyone except me,» asserts a 24-year-old. «I spend all those sexual conversations feeling like a fraud,» stated another.
education and information
It does not circulate in general, or it circulates in a covertly formal way than to learn to reach the orgasm for a woman can require a skill, a technique, a self-knowledge and from the other.
It is very difficult to find a young girl in our western world who has not seen a movie or had classmates imitate the movement of men masturbating.
Although all men have a general idea of how they do to reach their climax, it is a totally different matter, given the situation. For women, onanism, that is, self-masturbation, is something that is learned: one is not born instinctively knowing how to do it. You have to get an idea for how many men it is also like that if it is the female orgasm. Learning how to make a woman orgasm is as important as it is interesting, but it also requires attention.
If you want to continue, as we have done through our ArgentinaXP articles, to be a great sexual partner, you should know that orgasms originate of course in the clitoris. You must know where it is and how to stimulate it effectively. It's critical as a straight man that you understand the female sexual response system and how you're supposed to get into it.
A female sexuality expert tells women:
«Forget about your partner giving you your first orgasm (maybe they will, but that's not the norm). Don't expect it: few women reach the climax for the first time with a man (although the statistics for lesbians might be different) because they don't have a clue what they're doing at first, either.
How can men get such a bad rap as sexual partners?! From this space we seek to change that so you can give back to your favorite escort whenever you want, the best sexual pleasure. For this you must acquire information through sexual education.
Key to female orgasm
A 2010 survey published in the *Journal of Sexual Medicine* reported that 81% of the women who had received oral sex during their most recent sexual encounter achieved a clitoral orgasm, compared to 60% who reached orgasm through vaginal stimulation. Expert Cox tells women: ‘You can also achieve it by turning off the brain. The fact that a woman requires this extra neurological step may explain why she takes on average three to ten times longer than men to achieve it.«.
But that this works strictly for all women is not something we ensure in our space, and it certainly can work for many men as well.
You have to make him feel comfortable and lose control
«The key to orgasm is in the lost of control, therein lies the whole point. In an orgasm, for a few thousandths of a second, control of the corporeality, which is so conscious when excited, is lost. One has to allow yourself to lose control; it is likely that many women do not want to, or cannot go through the experience with complete freedom and without prejudice.
And it continues: «Pleasure is tied to whether I let myself get carried away by what I feel or if I am alert to see what is happening to me or thinking about how I look, how I appear at that moment, what image I am projecting, what I feel on a physical level, or whether the other person will like it or not,» a specialist ensures.
With this knowledge, men can get a better idea of what the female sexual response is like in general and how to apply this knowledge in a better sexual performance.
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